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Etiquette: Texting, Email, Cell Phone and all that Technology

Girl Texting

As a certified etiquette consultant, I am not going to tell any parent what to do or how to do it.   Protocols and guidelines need to be set today for behavior and life skills.

•  Make sure your children know that everyone sees what they are texting-ALWAYS- Know that words never go away and can be recovered even when deleted.  So when they text, have them make believe you the parent are reading the text before it is sent.

•  Have your children and you place a lock on their phone so no one sees your child’s calls or text

•  Protect your children with privacy settings on Facebook, MySpace, and iChat(Carefully read the instructions)

•  Never allow your children to have a computer in their room.  It’s much to tempting

•  Parents… is a website that allows you to learn the “web-language”

•  Protect your child against people and peers that intrude on their privacy.

•  Turn off the cell phone and computer at night.  Set the guidelines.

Technology is quick, exciting and fun when used properly.  Guidelines are needed so your children are not a victim of a privacy breach.


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Cellular Etiquette: The Man who Invented the Cellular Phone

Martin Cooper

Last night I was watching a news story on Martin Cooper…the man that invented the cellular phone.  He is 81 years old and he says PRIVACY as we know it is OVER.  At first, I was frightened for my children.  What will they encounter in life?  Identity theft? Inappropriate pictures?  Saying,  texting,  or facebooking something inappropriate?

Parents, the cellular phone and social media is only in its infancy stage. So, when you are out in public on your phone, set the correct example TODAY!

•  Step away from the public to take a call.

•  Excuse yourself from the table to take a call.

•  Explain to your children why you have to take a call over another type of call.

•  Raise the bar for your children so they Do NOT fall victim to this ever-growing PRIVACY invasion!

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Watch it, Teach it, Learn it

Watch it, Teach it, Learn it. That is what are children do everyday.  I read an article about cellphones behavior.  Cellphones have and are completely destroying us as a society.  We seem to not be able to ever put them down.  Many years ago,  we could turn it off or put it on vibrate for an appointment at the doctors, theater, food shopping, being with our children or family.  What happened? Blackberry has destroyed us and the IPhone has done us in.  Do you realize that we don’t look cool on our cellphones at lunch with a business associate or a friend?  Etiquette has gone right out the window.  Of course everyone knows to turn it off during important events, but how about the time in the car with you children or other members of your family.

If you’re not on call:  doctor, fireman, policeman, etc… Turn it off.  It can wait.  You don’t look important, you look rude.  Do you know a person is less productive for 20 minutes after an interruption from a cell phone call.  Today with our smart phones everyone knows you will have some type of stupid email-SPAM on it.  What is so important it can’t wait???

Our children are watching us so the next time you are at a school event or at the dinner table taking that call, you are teaching it.  “It” meaning the importance of that cell phone call over your child resulting in Learn it.  When your child is in school, at an event, driving, or out to dinner with someone the child has learned the poor behavior and bad manners.

Businesses have done studies showing that cell phone use has reduced productivity and are now limiting the hourly use.

Habits are hard to break, but try to break this habit.  Manners matter today like they did 100 years ago.  Basic courtesy still apply to every situation in our everyday life.  It’s common sense, use it even though we have the technology distractions.   Teaching your children today about proper life skills are imperative to a healthy society of tomorrow.

Filed under: Cellphone, Email, ETIQUETTE, Everyday Manners, Facebook, Texting

Cell Phone Tips: What to Do Where

If your cell phone rings and you’re…

…In a restaurant Excuse yourself from the table and take the call in another room, such as an anteroom, restroom or lobby. Never disturb your own table and other diners by making or taking a call while sitting at the table. (Some ‘cell-phone free’ restaurants now actually require diners to check their phones at the door.)

…On the street Be careful not to talk too loudly. And since talking on a phone has been shown to distract people from their immediate surroundings, for safety’s sake, pay extra attention to where you’re walking.

…At the movies If there’s an all-important call that you absolutely have to take, set your ringer ahead of time to “vibrate,” and try to sit in an aisle seat if possible. When your phone rings, quickly excuse yourself to the lobby to answer the call.

…In a car or on a train or bus Since the people traveling with you in a car or on a bus or train are a captive audience, you should restrict yourself to only the most essential calls—let your rehashing of last night’s party wait until the trip’s over—and keep all phone conversations as short as possible. On a train, consider stepping into the vestibule area between train cars to make any lengthy calls. If you’re riding in a “quiet car” on a train, keep your phone on “vibrate” and move immediately to the vestibule or another car if you need to answer a call. Finally be aware that speaking on a handheld phone while driving is now against the law in many places; so if you need to make or answer a call while you’re at the wheel, either pull over or get a headset that will let you talk while leaving your hands free.  Emily Post, Etiquette Book

AND THE BEST THING TO DO IS NOT ANSWER IT!!!  Let it go to voicemail.

Exceptions:  Your children or spouse.  Excuse yourself, get up and go answer it.  Try to make it short.

Filed under: Cellphone, ETIQUETTE

Cell Phones

THIS MAKES ME CRAZY.  What has happened to human decency and respect for one another.  Can your text or call not wait?  Why is this happening and it’s only getting worse.  Just remember we can tell our children how to behave but they watch and learn by our behavior. Common courtesy to really live by:

Four Essential Cell Phone Rules

1. Turn it off. If the ringing of your phone is going to bother the people around you—especially if you’re in a meeting, at a play or movie or concert, or in a quiet place like a library or church—turn your phone off or switch the ringer to silent or vibrate mode.

2. Step away. Whenever you’re around other people and you receive or make a cell phone call, move a short distance away so that you can talk without disturbing the people around you. If you’re with a group, simply excuse yourself for a few minutes: “Sorry, I need to take this call. I’ll be right back.” Then keep the call as brief as possible.

3. Don’t say anything personal, private or confidential if you’re in a place where others might be able to overhear you. Instead, arrange a time to call back when you can speak privately.

4. Watch the volume. For some reason, people’s ‘phone voices’ are always louder than the voice they use in normal conversation. Add to that the noise of a busy sidewalk or the background noise of a public place, and the urge to shout can become overwhelming. But remember—you’re the one fighting to hear over the noise, not the person you’re speaking with. So give everyone a break, and remember to tone it down.

I always refer to Emily Post. Why? Because she is one of the originals and knows what she is doing.  Buy her book , “Etiquette”.

It will always give the right answer!  I have signed up to be an Etiquette trainer for children of the ages 8-13.  I hope to bring it to Miami and Broward Soon.

Filed under: Cellphone, ETIQUETTE

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