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Repetition for Children

When learning good table manners for children, I believe in repetition.  We as parents need to reinforce good table manners which are not learned the first time taught.  Continue to explain why a fork, spoon and knife is used in the correct manner to your children.  Why good posture is important?  What is good table conversation?

It is extremely difficult, but the reward is worth it.


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How do you eat Lobster?

If you or your children are going out with an important person, I would suggest to order something less messy.  The restaurant also may offer a lazyman’s lobster which means, “shell off.”  Order this dish using a knife and fork to eat it.

When you are with friends and family, order anything you would like.  Sometimes you just don’t want to worry about being messy.  It’s called being off and taking it easy.

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Lesson Learned

I was placed in a very awkward situation with this extremely aggressive women who I am paying a tremendous amount of money to rent her house for my vacation.  I arrive at this beautiful house.  I pay in full for the rental and the first night there I realize that the local train blows its horn right outside the house I am renting… 8 times consecutively every hour on the hour since I have arrived.  These trains even blow the horns at 9:00pm, 11:00pm, 3:00am, 5:00am, 7:00am and so on and so on.  This is not disclosed by the advertisement which was placed by the owner, but the waterfall behind the house was placed in the advertisement for this house.

PROTOCOL:  When a person pays for a rental house, all must be disclosed including the negatives of the house.  At that point, a person will decide wether or not that is acceptable to them to rent the house.  The owner of the house is not obligated to give schedules or town happenings.

When a disagreement occurs with the rental, it is out of simple kindness and courtesy that the owner of the house try to accommodate the renters. We are a guest in your town, a paying guest in your house.  Etiquette and Protocol is to make a visitor in your town feel welcome!  So this women should have reached inside and pulled out as much compassion she could find and not place judgement on the renter(guest).

NOTE:  Never bring up personal attacks on the way someone looks, what they are wearing or a personal attack on what someone does for a living.

And to the woman who owns the house:  I am an Etiquette Consultant not a psychologist or counselor.

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What to do?

When food is in your mouth, when food gets stuck in your teeth or when there is a terrible piece of meat that is full of fat…What do we do?

Do not pick the food out at the table, excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

When food taste bad or is full of fat it is a bite more complicated.  Take your fork and put it in your mouth then remove the piece of food.  Place it on the plate.  Find something to cover it up since no one wants to look at a half chewed up piece of meat on the plate during dinner.

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So many times I say thank you at school, grocery store, restaurants, doctors appointments, etc…I have noticed that very rarely do people say, “Your Welcome.”  A response to a thank you is appropriate to say a cordial response back, not a smile or a nod of acknowledgement.  That does not count.

Teaching our children to say thank and you’re welcome should begin as soon as our children understand a communication, a language.  Body language does not work in this situation.  Even if it hurts, respond to another human by acknowledging them.  No one gets a pass.

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College Interview for the Student

When going for a college interview, make sure that you are dressed in a suit with nylons matching the suit or lighter.  Your shoes should be matching the color of your suit or darker.  Do not ever wear white shoes.  In fact, if you own a pair of white shoes, throw them out right now and replace them with a nude color.  Gentlemen, put on a belt that matches your shoes color.  Dress socks are a must. Hygiene is critical.  You can only make a first impression once and that occurs within the first seven seconds.  If you are sporting a tattoo or piercing, cover it up or take it out.

If your interview is at a restaurant, or you have been invited out for lunch NEVER:

•  order a hamburger

•  no pasta

•  no french fries

•  no ketchup or mustard

•  no ribs

•  nothing that the fingers are involved.

This lunch is about your choices and selections.  It is not about a yummy free lunch.  Order something on the menu that requires a fork and a knife.  Remember to always match each course with the other people at the table.

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When do I start eating?

When the hostess sits down, takes her napkin and places it on her lap.  That’s when you eat.  Do not touch anything on the table until then, including your napkin.

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Table Setting 102

This table setting is incorrect?  Why?  Whenever you set a table, a fork is married to a knife.  The salad fork always has a knife.  On the right side, a knife is missing.  Plus, where has the napkin gone?  Why is the soup bowl there?  This setting needs improvement.

This setting is almost correct.  The utensils are married, but the napkin?  The napkin should be on the left of the last fork or on the middle of the plate.

Finally, Emily Post gets it right.

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Well, Moms and Dads.  My boys are learning this now because it is etiquette.

When the toilet paper runs out.  Have your children understand how to remove the toilet paper carton and place a new one on the toilet paper spring holder.  It’s fun for children to learn, “how-to’s”.  Remember to compliment a job well done.  When your children are all grown up, this action will follow them for the rest of their lives.

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When it Drops

What do you do when your utensils or napkin drops on the floor?

Simply kick it under the table and ask for a new one.  Never pick it up.

It’s dirty on the floor.

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