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Did she get the gift?

Have you ever been to an event when the event planner says she will take the gift for you.  Well, I have and it was a very bad idea.  When going to a Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Wedding, Anniversary Party, and others,  I suggest mailing the gift.  The host/hostess does not want to be bothered.  It is appreciated, but a bother to keep track and hold it.

Recently, I went to a party and the party planner took the gift which was a piece of jewelry.  I have not received a thank you note.  Now what?

ETIQUETTE:  If you have not received a thank you within 6 weeks it is absolutely acceptable to call the host/hostess and ask if they received the gift.

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Filed under: ETIQUETTE, GIFT IDEAS

The Wedding Gift

Tiffany & Co. Elsa Peretti Bowl

This is a wonderful gift with a perfect (FREE with purchase) box.  This is a high end gift for a lavish wedding.

Tiffany & Co. Candlestick

This is the perfect gift if you are on a budget, but two would be expected.  This wedding gift has a lot of bang for your buck.  The wrapping is also FREE and is absolutely beautiful.

Remember, a card is a must and never bring a wedding gift to the ceremony or party.  A wedding gift can be mailed in advance or immediately after.  It is not etiquette to send a wedding gift up to a year after the wedding.

If you are sent an invitation, you must send a gift.  However, the exception that everyone wants to know:  If you are not a good friend a gift is not a must.

The other popular question, is what to give or how much.  This depends on the person receiving the invitation feels about the person sending it.  It is not true that you need to spend the amount per person.  How would you know how much that would be?  Plus, that is a little tacky.  Give from your heart.  If they are a real friend and won’t matter, how much money you sent.

Filed under: ETIQUETTE, GIFT IDEAS

Gift for the Bar Mitzvah Boy-Oh Boy

This one is tough.  How do I say this politely, MONEY.  Sure I could be politically polite and say on the expensive end:  anything APPLE and on the budgeted end a pen, but why?  Boys like to collect money and spend it or save it.  I bought a boy gift this year.  An electronic microscope.  What a flop! I listened to a suggestion given to me and I knew the boy was disappointed.  Is it proper to give money?…YES. In a nice Event Appropriate card.(check, cash or gift card)

So the next question is how much?  Remember every family who invites you to their son/daughter Mitzvah party are at different levels of friendships.  Look at that closely.  Also, what type of party is it? Oh Money…what a tough topic.  I’m going to wait for the questions and comments before I start giving my opinion.

There is no rule, so it is entirely up to you. Let your affection for the individual being Bar/Bat Mitzvah make your decision.

Filed under: ETIQUETTE, GIFT IDEAS

Gifts for the Bat Mitzvah Girl

I know you are going to think I am crazy, but every woman likes the little blue box.  I am a huge fan of Tiffany & Co.  When I became a Debutant I received my first pearl earrings from Tiffany & Company.  I felt like a queen.  They have several different price points and the can monogram anything. (give yourself some extra time for monogramming) They gift wrap for FREE.  It’s a classic and anyone that knows me, knows I go for the timeless classic.

Filed under: ETIQUETTE, GIFT IDEAS

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